The comparison trap (and why it keeps people stuck)
You go to bed fully intending to exercise tomorrow.
Then the morning hits, and suddenly everything else feels more important.
This exact pattern came up in a recent coaching session I recorded with a Nerd Fitness reader named Charlie.
Below are three coaching takeaways from that conversation you can use today to avoid the comparison trap, build momentum, and reduce burnout at the start of the year.
The comparison trap (and why it keeps people stuck)
Charlie has a pattern a lot of people fall into: a few months of great consistency, followed by a complete drop-off.
Restarting feels brutal – not because they don’t know what to do, but because they’re comparing themselves to a past peak.
VIDEO: WHY STARTING AGAIN FEELS SO HARD (AND HOW TO FIX IT)
Takeaway: Try using an accumulation goal (exactly what we’ve set up in the Nerd Fitness Challenge.)
Each workout is a win on its own, not a verdict on your past performance.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
Lowering the barrier to entry (especially in the morning)
Mornings are hard for Charlie, especially early in the day before her focus comes online. They go to bed at night planning to workout in the morning, but when the moment arrives, everything else looks more appealing.
VIDEO: HOW TO MAKE MORNING WORKOUTS EASIER TO START
Takeaway: Consistency often isn’t about trying harder – it’s about removing friction.
Sometimes the best move is making the habit easier to start, even if it looks a little unconventional.
When rules backfire (the “rebel” mindset)
Charlie does great with systems at work – but resists them at home. Mornings feel like “my time,” and rigid rules trigger pushback.
VIDEO: WHY RULES DON’T WORK FOR EVERYONE
Takeaway: For some people, consistency comes from options with consequences, not rigid rules.
Instead of:
“I have to do this.”
It becomes:
“Here are my options – and what each choice leads to.”
That small shift preserves autonomy and makes follow-through more likely.
Now, it’s your turn
Before you close this email, take a moment to think about this:
What’s one small adjustment you’re willing to try this week?
It could be something you heard in my coaching session with Charlie, or something that’s come up for you as the year gets going.
Treat it like an experiment. Try it. Notice what happens.
If you want to reply and tell me what you’re testing, I’d love to hear it.
– Matt
