The Beauty of Goodbyes. Sometimes it’s okay to let it go | by Unsaid Verses | Sep, 2025

Sometimes it’s okay to let it go

Why does someone enter our life only to leave after some time? I have asked myself this question every time someone left me or distanced themselves. Maybe I loved them too much — more than they deserved. Maybe I gave them all my love and kept nothing for myself.

But now, after years, when I look back at my past, I realize something important. If they had never come into my life, I would have never learned some of the most valuable lessons. It doesn’t matter whether they left for good or bad; they taught me what peace truly is, why self-love is essential, why we should never love someone excessively, and why happiness should come from within.

Because when they left, I was alone. And in that loneliness, all I needed was peace and love. And the only person who could provide me with both was myself.

One thing I have realized in this journey is that when you choose peace, you have to say goodbye to many people. In the beginning, it hurts. But in the end, it’s worth it. Peace doesn’t come overnight. It doesn’t mean just becoming silent — it takes time. Sometimes, even in the middle of seeking peace, heartbreaks will come, old memories will hit, and emotions will overflow. But eventually, you understand that peace is about creating distance — not just from people, but from the things that don’t nourish your soul. It’s about not engaging in conversations that don’t matter. It’s about understanding that some people will never love you the way you loved them.

You gave them all your love, drop by drop, from your heart. And when you needed love the most, your heart felt like a prison.

Peace isn’t just about silence — it’s about learning to say goodbye. Not just to people but to your old self — the version of you that endured so much pain yet remained silent. You have to say goodbye to that person and start prioritizing yourself. At first, it’s hard. But as time passes and you walk toward peace, it all starts to feel beautiful. You begin to love yourself. It no longer matters what people say about you. You live with freedom. You do things you always wanted to do but never had time for. And then, you realize that all those goodbyes weren’t losses — they were freedom. They were necessary for your growth.

And just think — waiting for the right person is always better than waiting for the wrong person to change. You don’t need to change yourself for someone who doesn’t even value you. Right now, you are the right person in your own life. The energy we waste trying to make others change — if we invested even half of it in ourselves, we would become better, happier, and more fulfilled. And when we become the best version of ourselves, the right people naturally come into our lives.

Sometimes, when I think about my past, it feels strange. I remember how they made excuses to avoid me, while I made excuses just to spend a little more time with them. But the truth is, they never truly loved me. It never really mattered to them. And when they had to leave, they left — without hesitation, without looking back. Meanwhile, I stayed. I played my role in their life sincerely, no matter how short-lived it was. But in the end, everyone did what they had to do.

And after all this, I changed. And people say to me, ‘You have changed.’ Yes, I have. But wasn’t it them who changed first? Or maybe, life and circumstances changed me.

I still remember that little child in me — the one who found joy in the smallest things, who felt everything so deeply, who laughed easily, who believed in the goodness of people. But life gave me an ocean of pain. It taught me that being too kind isn’t always a good thing. So, I buried that soft-hearted child within me and became someone stronger.

The smile that once never left my face slowly faded. The child who once swayed with the wind became as solid as a rock. I once thought the world was filled with kind-hearted people like me. I thought everyone would hold my hand like my parents did. But then reality hit. I saw the world for what it truly was.

And the first person I trusted was the first to leave me.

Maybe it had to happen. Maybe it was necessary to open my eyes.

But once my eyes were open, I was never the same again.