It finally gets Better. There’s a moment in life when the storm… | by Wakio Agather | Sep, 2025
There’s a moment in life when the storm begins to quiet, and you realize that you are no longer fighting for breath; you are finally breathing. That’s what it means when people say: It finally gets better.
For a long time, I didn’t believe it. When grief weighed me down, when heartbreak hollowed me out, when motherhood felt like a battlefield of sleepless nights and unanswered prayers, better felt like a fairy tale. People told me “time heals,” but time alone doesn’t. What time does is create space for growth, for new beginnings, for wounds to turn into scars you can live with. Healing is something you walk into, step by step, even when you don’t see it happening.
And then one day, you wake up and realize: It finally got better.
Finding Better
Better doesn’t always announce itself with fireworks. Sometimes it shows up quietly, like a gentle sunrise after a long night.
For me, “better” came in unexpected ways. After losing my grandmother, my anchor, my biggest cheerleader, I thought I would never feel whole again. For months, I carried grief like a heavy stone in my chest. But slowly, better came. It came in laughter with my sons. It came in the small courage of getting out of bed on days when the weight was too much. It came in writing, in research, in remembering her wisdom, and realizing that she lived on in the lessons she left me.
Better also came after heartbreak. I thought the end of a nine-year+ relationship would destroy me. Instead, it stripped me down to the truth of who I was without the roles and expectations I had been carrying. It hurt, deeply, but that ending became an opening. An opening to rediscover myself, to parent from a place of strength, to learn that love isn’t just about who stands beside you, but how you stand for yourself. And ultimately, love knocks once more.
Finding better is often about letting go of what you thought you needed, so that what you truly need can find its way to you.
Experiencing Better
Once you find better, you start to experience it, not in some grand, dramatic way, but in the little shifts that change your days.
Better is the peace of paying your bills without panic. Better is your child’s smile when they see you rested instead of drained. Better is the job opportunity that finally matches your skills, after dozens of rejections. Better is the quiet moment when you realize you haven’t cried yourself to sleep in weeks.
Experiencing better feels like exhaling after holding your breath for too long. It feels like walking into a new chapter where joy isn’t a stranger, where gratitude becomes second nature, and where even your struggles make sense because they shaped this moment.
Sometimes experiencing better is about people too, the right ones arriving when you least expect it. Safe support. Genuine love. Friendships that don’t drain but pour into you. It’s amazing how different life feels when you are surrounded by “better.”
Becoming Better
But the most beautiful part is not just finding or experiencing better, it’s becoming better.
Every storm you survive changes you. Every loss teaches you something about holding on and letting go. Every heartbreak redefines the way you see love. Every rejection builds resilience. And every season of struggle transforms you into someone stronger, wiser, and softer all at once.
I look at myself now and realize: I am not who I was five years ago. Pain has refined me. Motherhood has expanded me. Research has grounded me. Writing has freed me. I have become better, not because life suddenly became easy, but because I learned to live through the hard parts without losing myself.
Becoming better is about alignment, living closer to your truth, honoring your pace, respecting your rest, and believing in your worth even when no one else claps for you.
The Journey to “Better”
If you’re in a season where everything feels heavy, I want to tell you this: hold on. Not because things will magically fix themselves overnight, but because healing is not linear. Growth is not instant. Transformation is not always visible.
It takes time. It takes tears. It takes countless moments of wanting to give up. But little by little, day by day, you walk yourself into better.
And when you get there, you’ll realize:
- The pain that once defined you now only reminds you of how far you’ve come.
- The people you lost made space for the people who truly belong.
- The prayers you thought went unanswered were guiding you to something greater.
- The version of you that once struggled has evolved into someone you are proud of.
So, It finally gets better. You find better. You experience better. You become better.
Those words are not just a quote for me, they are a testimony. They remind me that no matter how long the night, the morning always comes. They remind me that “better” is not something you stumble into once; it’s something you keep discovering in different seasons of life.
And maybe that’s the gift of our human journey, to keep unfolding into better, over and over again.
With Love.
Agather Writes.
